Taking “No” for an Answer

I gain a lot from gift away joint-venture programs organized on the Internet. For those who are not familiar with it, it is a program where internet marketers give away products for free to the visitors who opted to be on the marketers e-mailing lists. Through the programs, I was able to download digital products without having to take out my credit card.

Last year I received an invitation to join one of the programs as a contributor or a JV partner. One of the condition set by the organizer is the contributor must have a mailing list consist of at least 1500 e-mail addresses. At first I thought I don’t want to apply because I only have a small mailing list. On the second thought, why not? I can practise taking “No” for answer.

A couple of year before that, taking “No” as an answer was a big issue for me. I always got upset when people say “No” to me. I was involved in multi level marketing at that time. My sponsor asked me to prepare a list of people who I know and later meet them to show the opportunity. After a few “No’ I stop doing the presentation. My sponsor motivated me and told me to learn to take “No” for an answer if I want to be successful. He told me that Colonel Sanders didn’t stop offering his secret recipe even after hundreds of “No”. If he stops after taking a few “No”, we won’t have Kentucky Fried Chicken now. Now go and show the plan, show the plan, show the plan…….

I was charged up for a few weeks, but the zest went down after that. My sponsor said that my belief system is not strong enough. I agreed with him although I don’t have a slightest idea how strong is strong. After a few months, the zest dies off together with my dream.

Later I realize that it is not the “No” that made me upset, but what I made “No” means. The meaning or the story that I made was I’m not good enough. That what made me upset, not the “No”. It was the same as the belief cycle that I mentioned in the posting before this. The person didn’t say “No’ to me, but to the offer that I made, at that time. He may say “Yes” in the future. We do not know when that “future” going to come, may be soon, may be not too soon. Not knowing is what thrilling us. Do you think it is interesting to watch the football game if you already know the score?

Going back to my application to be a contributor to the JV Program, it was approved. The product that I contributed was a 14-day e-course, “How to Overcome Fear”. You can sign up for the course free of charge through this LINK. Please act now, the link will be taken down two weeks from today. I charge US$7 for the registration to this e-course.

You can download one of the module, “How to Overcome Fear of Failure”, HERE (edited PDF version).