Living a Happy Life

Everyone wants to live a happy life. Well, almost everyone. Yes you are right, there are people who chose to live a miserable life. I say once more, there are people who chose to live a miserable life. How’s that?

To many of us, we are hoping that happiness will come to us someday. Listen my friends, that someday will never come. If you want happiness, it’s NOW.

Have you heard yourself saying, “I’ll be happy when I have a million dollars.”

When you have that one million you’ll probably say, “I’ll be happy if I made another million.”

Zig Zigler once said, “Money won’t make you happy… but everybody wants to find out for themselves.”

It is not how much money you have that will make you happy, it’s how many time you give it out to make a difference in people’s life. If you don’t believe it, just try it on. But remember; don’t let other people know you’re giving the money.

“It is more blessed to give than to receive,” – Jesus

“The hand that give is better than the hand that receive,” – Mohammed.

You probably have said this, “I’ll be happy when my better half changes her/his attitude.”

However everyday, when you came back from work you’ll find the same old her. Or everyday when he came back from work, you’ll find the same old man. Sometime you think it’s better for you to remain single.

“How I wish he/she change her way of being, and my life will be better.”

Talking about change, I’ll like to quote Carol Burnett, “Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.”

Thus if you’re thinking of changing someone way of being, you’re fighting a loosing battle. The more you try to fix him/her, the more miserable you’ll be. The best thing you can do is to accept him/her as he/she is and as he/she is not and have a commitment that he/she will change himself/herself.

Being happy is a matter of choice. You can choose to be happy or unhappy at any moment in your life.

You might ask, “What do you mean I have a choice? I have no choice. I’m stuck in this situation.”

Think again, are really stuck in that situation? Consider that you like to be in that situation. Think what you’ll get as a payoff by being in that situation. Are you blaming someone, or perhaps yourself, for the situation you are in? Are you invalidating someone? Or are you trying to proof that you’re right and someone is wrong? OR you are right about how wrong you are?

I want to share what I have read in a book titled “Happiness Now”, by Andrew Matthews. He wrote about P. C. Taylor whose work is to clean New York City subway tunnels. Taylor spends 25 years of his life in the dirty, stinking, rat-infested, trash-ridden tunnels through which the trains run. Does he hate his job? Does he feel miserable? NO. Taylor loves his job very much.

He said, “Homeless people live down there in those tunnels. And I’m helping to give them a better home. And while I’m helping the homeless, I’m putting my two daughters through college!”

If you think your work is suck, think about Taylor’s job. It is your point of view that matters. Change your point of view, you’ll change your life from a miserable to a happy life. I have one good article on changing point of view, here’s the link if you choose to read; http://www.myself-help.com/Change_Your_Point_of_View.html.