Being Judgemental

Allow me to share something about relationship that I got from a friend. What works is that to feel them within yourself as you read the posting.

Do you notice that how quick we are to form an opinion of a person, to conclude about him/her. We find it satisfying to label another person, to give them a conceptual identity and to pronounce judgment upon them.

Childhood experiences and cultural environment have conditioned every human being to think and behave in certain ways. What you see is not who they are, but who they appear to be. When you pronounce judgment upon someone, you confuse those conditioned mind patterns with who they really are. To do that is in itself a deeply conditioned and unconscious pattern. You give them a conceptual identity, and that false identity becomes a constraint in your relationship with that person.

When you let go the judgment, it does not mean that you don’t see what they do. It means that you recognize their behavior as a form of conditioning and you see it and accept it as that. You don’t construct an identity out of it for that person. That liberates you as well as the other person from judging with conditioned mind. The ego then no longer runs your relationships.